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Every person has a childhood, every person has a teen hood and every person has an  adulthood.

Our future is dependent on, not only the experiences which we have throughout our childhood and teen hood, but also how we adapt to these experiences and how we react and respond to them as well.

If our childhood has been disturbed in any way, such as, with strict parenting which offered no explanation, severe and unexplained punishment and blame, enabling by spoiling (giving a child everything they want and allowing unacceptable behaviour displays such as tantrums, to continue unchecked), violence toward the child of any nature and addictions displayed on a continuum by the parents, then this would result with any of the many and varied  unacceptable behaviours, which begin to be exhibited within childhood and teen hood and then of course transfer into our adulthood.

You will only get out of a person, what has been nurtured within them.

So if violence has been exhibited within the home, then violence may come from the child who has grown up within this home.

If spoiled brat behaviour has been allowed to continue within the home, then the child who came from this home will continue to exhibit spoiled brat behaviour.

If addiction of any nature has continued to occur within the home, then it would not be unusual for the child from this home to exhibit any form of unacceptable behaviour.

Within this course we have uncovered 150 unacceptable behaviours and we have traced their origin back to childhood in most cases. We have learned about our frightened and misunderstood Inner Child and been introduced to our out of control Outer Child.

We take a close look at our Inner Child because we need to identify our unmet needs from childhood.

We reach adulthood with some of the unmet needs and this is the reason for our out of control unacceptable behaviour display.

An unmet need is anything which is still lurking within us which causes us some form of pain, misunderstanding, feeling of resentment, unresolved issue with parents or others, unresolved issues with siblings, feeling that our parents expected too much from us and more.

I clearly identify many of these areas for your perusal.

Within the second part of this course we take a look at the nine major distortions to our view.

Instead of looking honestly and realistically, at anything at all, we tend, (because of our previous experience) to hold some form of mindset about the reality of the situation and this is why we tend toward self sabotage.

We bring our self undone and embarrass and shame our self which often leaves our loved ones speechless. Often the question is asked, (about one of these such outbursts) ‘Where did that come from?’

Statements such as, ‘I didn’t see that coming’, confirm that we gradually find out that we really do not understand our self, let alone another person.

We learn within the third part, how important it is for us to be understanding toward our self whilst we try our self out with our changed behaviour.

We learn to cut our self some slack and not be too hard on our self, as this will only block the pathway to us learning more about ourselves.

Whenever a parent is too hard on a child, this has the effect of shutting the child down and blocking the pathway to learning and understanding.

As we move into the fourth part of this course, we find that we have to begin to focus on one of the major areas which will create grief for us and this is…The lack of Self Control.

There is not one person who does not act ‘Way out of control’ at some point within their life, but the secret lies in ‘getting a lid on’ this destructive behaviour.

Within the fifth part of this course we are going to begin to re-structure our behaviours and gain back control over our ‘Out Of Control Behaviours’, diverting them and re-assigning them to a more positive conclusion for us.

We learn to harness the strength from our Out Of Control Outer Child and we use this strength to work on our behaviours and toward learning the New Replacement Behaviours.

Often times we employ the use of another unacceptable behaviour, which is known as Over-Compensation.

This is where we replace filling our natural needs with over compensatory actions. This will only provide for us a very temporary solution and in the long run, usually cause more pain for us.

Examples of this are as follows…

I have debt which I have accumulated, yet instead of addressing the issue (paying the debt) I go on a wild shopping spree.

I react with angry outbursts each time attention is drawn to my physical size, yet instead of slowly and consistently addressing the issue, I eat at restaurants and buy myself chocolate treats.

I have constant arguments with my partner and they often reach breaking point, yet instead of making a concerted effort to lose my stubbornness, I keep up the argument and behave in disagreeable ways.

There are many more over-compensatory behaviours which we use but I think you get the picture.

We learn to keep a diary, noting the rise and fall of our emotions, the triggers which set us off and the behaviours which come along as a result.

This provides insight for us into the places where we may need to avoid at times and situations which we may need to walk away from until we can handle them better.

We learn about Abandonment and Insecurity and we learn just how many forms of abandonment there are and how this affects us.

Whenever any person feels any level of insecure feelings, they will fail to be able to see their own issues and definitely fail to be able to address them and deal with them positively.

Whenever we have felt any feelings of insecurity within our childhood and we also felt as if we were all alone, with no one to help us sort through this, then we would resort to any one of the behaviours which had taught us from experience, would get us the desired attention from our parents.

What we did not realise as a child was that, the attention we received from throwing a tantrum would not have been positive attention.

This situation failed to teach us that more acceptable behaviour would have gotten positive attention from our parents instead.

We learn within this course that we do not have to live in continual hell and disruption.

Everything might be turning out perfectly for weeks or even months and yet something seems to ‘tip the cart’ and we lose all control, when there is actually no need to.

We are definitely able to understand unacceptable behaviour, and we are definitely able to bring our ‘Out Of Control’, into control again.

Our families will love us for this work we do and we are able to live happier lives as a result.

You’re  a very courageous person to take on this learning and your  whole life will change as a result of it.

Congratulations for taking on this challenge, you will never regret it.